By Valerie Solomon, Busy Mom Gets Fit
I was just thinking how badass a few of the little girls on my 6 year old son's soccer team are when a mom across the field yelled at her son, "Come on! Beat her! She's just a girl!"
What?! Just when I thought we were making progress in women's equality, I'm reminded how so many people's minds are deeply rooted in the dark ages.
I'm raising my sons to not just value women, but to see them as equals, partners, and capable of just as much as anyone.
Just to double check my 'raising', I told my ten year old what I heard and asked what he thought. "Well it's weird because she's telling her son he's not good ...and she's saying girls shouldn't be good. And it's weird because she's a mom and she's a girl!"
Yep. Buddy, it is weird ...on so many levels.
Please, fellow boy moms, join me in raising sons who see that it's not a competition. Boys can be who they are, and girls can be who they are. In some cases, the traditional gender roles apply. But many times the girl is just really that much faster (or stronger, or better at math, etc.) And when that happens, teach him to empower her. Teach him to want her on his team and not see her as a threat to his masculinity.
In no way do I think raising boys to be men involves making them feel superior to women in sports, career, or any other way.
I put together this little survey to see where your biggest struggles are. It's not easy being a mom on a mission for better health and fitness! Struggles are bound to exist. I'm looking forward to seeing what areas I can help this community in the most.
It makes me a better mother and wife if I move my body. When you are healthy you just feel better and part of being healthy is being active and exercise. The difference is amazing. If I haven't moved enough my body starts to hurt. I'm more tired and cranky too. I've made it part of my identity so now I have to because it's part of who I am. Like - "oh that's Jacque, she's a fit mom." And that has been key for me to stick with it.
Recently, I was in a serious funk.
Here I was… this fitness/empowerment chick who was making a living helping people become their best selves, but I was strugglinggggg myself.
I’m a single self employed mom. I have zero time to not be highly productive. I have zero time to feel depressed. I knew I had to dig myself out of this funk.
How I'm Nailing My Nutrition & Wasting Zero Brainspace On It...
I’m happy to report that for almost 4 years now, I’ve found my sustainable approach to nutrition!
I'm nailing my nutrition & wasting zero brainspace on it! I’m able to stay within 5lbs of my comfortable weight year around and not really give up anything that I love (hello wine and tacos!). I have more mental clarity and energy than ever. I’m spending zero time meal prepping.
Are you struggling to stick to a goal every year?
If so, sit for a minute and really think. Do you want being physically fit and healthy to be what you value? Beyond your goal weight or goal ‘look’, is it a value you feel import to instill in your children?
This is a common question I get from my online clients and those that purchase my downloadable plans from this website.
“Am I lifting enough weight to reach my goal?”
“What does lifting heavy mean?”
"How Do I Know if I’m Lifting Heavy Enough?"
When it comes to inspiring anyone to start, own, or continue a fitness journey, the notorious transformation photo is often used on social media.
Recently, however, I’ve read fitness professionals saying that transformation photos are toxic. They say that the pictures leave out the struggle, don’t tell enough of the story, or make others feel worse about themselves and make them feel shameful.
AS SOMEONE WITH A TRANSFORMATION TO SHARE, I HAD TO WEIGH IN ON THE ISSUE.
I read a blog the other day that really irked me to my core. Maybe it bothered me because I get a lot of “mommy guilt” questions from followers. Maybe it bothered me because I deal with a lot of women that really want more for themselves and people in their life push back. I feel compelled to address my thoughts.