By Valerie Solomon, Busy Mom Gets Fit
I was just thinking how badass a few of the little girls on my 6 year old son's soccer team are when a mom across the field yelled at her son, "Come on! Beat her! She's just a girl!"
What?! Just when I thought we were making progress in women's equality, I'm reminded how so many people's minds are deeply rooted in the dark ages.
I'm raising my sons to not just value women, but to see them as equals, partners, and capable of just as much as anyone.
Just to double check my 'raising', I told my ten year old what I heard and asked what he thought. "Well it's weird because she's telling her son he's not good ...and she's saying girls shouldn't be good. And it's weird because she's a mom and she's a girl!"
Yep. Buddy, it is weird ...on so many levels.
Please, fellow boy moms, join me in raising sons who see that it's not a competition. Boys can be who they are, and girls can be who they are. In some cases, the traditional gender roles apply. But many times the girl is just really that much faster (or stronger, or better at math, etc.) And when that happens, teach him to empower her. Teach him to want her on his team and not see her as a threat to his masculinity.
In no way do I think raising boys to be men involves making them feel superior to women in sports, career, or any other way.
Are you struggling to stick to a goal every year?
If so, sit for a minute and really think. Do you want being physically fit and healthy to be what you value? Beyond your goal weight or goal ‘look’, is it a value you feel import to instill in your children?
This is a common question I get from my online clients and those that purchase my downloadable plans from this website.
“Am I lifting enough weight to reach my goal?”
“What does lifting heavy mean?”
"How Do I Know if I’m Lifting Heavy Enough?"
When it comes to inspiring anyone to start, own, or continue a fitness journey, the notorious transformation photo is often used on social media.
Recently, however, I’ve read fitness professionals saying that transformation photos are toxic. They say that the pictures leave out the struggle, don’t tell enough of the story, or make others feel worse about themselves and make them feel shameful.
AS SOMEONE WITH A TRANSFORMATION TO SHARE, I HAD TO WEIGH IN ON THE ISSUE.
I read a blog the other day that really irked me to my core. Maybe it bothered me because I get a lot of “mommy guilt” questions from followers. Maybe it bothered me because I deal with a lot of women that really want more for themselves and people in their life push back. I feel compelled to address my thoughts.
It’s a season, and oh so worth it. But let’s be real…. it’s time to get back into routine and feeling in control of your choices again. BACK ON TRACK is where you feel the best and thrive the most.
After being stuck a few times myself, and also successfully propelling myself forward, I’ve come up with a short list of tips to help you to get out of your own way.
If you’re like the person described above, it’s likely you’re the most confident you’ve ever been. You are more secure in who you are, and that has nothing to do with what you look like. There’s a new you that’s looking for new friends that “get it”.