By Valerie Solomon, Busy Mom Gets Fit
I was just thinking how badass a few of the little girls on my 6 year old son's soccer team are when a mom across the field yelled at her son, "Come on! Beat her! She's just a girl!"
What?! Just when I thought we were making progress in women's equality, I'm reminded how so many people's minds are deeply rooted in the dark ages.
I'm raising my sons to not just value women, but to see them as equals, partners, and capable of just as much as anyone.
Just to double check my 'raising', I told my ten year old what I heard and asked what he thought. "Well it's weird because she's telling her son he's not good ...and she's saying girls shouldn't be good. And it's weird because she's a mom and she's a girl!"
Yep. Buddy, it is weird ...on so many levels.
Please, fellow boy moms, join me in raising sons who see that it's not a competition. Boys can be who they are, and girls can be who they are. In some cases, the traditional gender roles apply. But many times the girl is just really that much faster (or stronger, or better at math, etc.) And when that happens, teach him to empower her. Teach him to want her on his team and not see her as a threat to his masculinity.
In no way do I think raising boys to be men involves making them feel superior to women in sports, career, or any other way.
And what women's fitness camp would be complete without a girl power play list full of empowering songs for women as background music?
Here's my list so for this year's Camp GORGO. If you have suggestions, I'd love to hear!
Yoga has gone from a fringe activity--the pursuit of a few spiritually minded individuals--to a mainstream topic in fitness circles. Everyone from grandmas to Marines are now engaging in what used to be the purview of mystics, and that begs the question...is it still a sacred pursuit? Or just a great physical workout?
Cross-training has been promoted by an assortment of fitness professionals for years. Runners need strength, bodybuilders need flexibility...these were radical suggestions at one time, but now they’re generally accepted in training circles.
It’s rare now to see anyone in the gym, running on the road or track, or even just walking around the office without some kind of wearable fitness tracking device, and it can’t help but make you wonder--do fitness tracking tools help you reach fitness goals?
So what do you do when time is at a premium? What do you do when energy and money are, as well?
In the weight lifting world, failure is not only an option, it’s a good one. But if you don’t feel inclined to push yourself to the limit, there are other choices out there. If you’d like to maximize muscle growth and have the ability to engage in smaller, more frequent workouts, it’s a productive alternative.
Weight loss tips for older women don’t have to simply be restriction and struggle, in other words. You do have to throw some effort at exercise and nutrition, but it’s a matter of working smarter, not harder.
Is filtering yourself beyond recognition really going to help your self esteem in the end? Or is it going to make it even more unlikely that you’re happy with what you see in the mirror, if you’re comparing it to what you’re looking at--along with your Facebook friends and Instagram followers--on your social media posts?
Organizing your workout schedules and nutrition as a busy mom trying to get fit is hard enough on its own, with the time crunches and roster of responsibilities you already have, but when you’re also the meal and snack planner for a crew of kids--who often are not thrilled about your healthy choices for meals or snacks--it can add to the difficulty.
Byproducts of a “lose weight, look good” protocol may very well be that your self-esteem skyrockets and a few other things fall into place in your life. But be wary of associating feeling better about yourself too closely with appearance.